They will NOT leave until justice is served.
Don’t ever fucking try to tell me that white people aren’t targeted and discriminated against for the color of their skin. Don’t ever try to fucking say that ANYONE has never been discriminated against. If you want fucking justice, then ACT on that justice.
HI UM NOPE
This headline is the deformed offspring of lies, bad reporting, and a Getty Image from 2012 taken after a man was beaten by police at the Occupy Wall Street protests.
The article cites no sources and reads like a Facebook Aunt telling a story they heard from their son’s buddy Taylor, most likely because it’s a poorly-paraphrased version of this also false article that calls itself ”White Man Cold-Cocked By Vicious Ferguson Mob In Blatant Racist Attack.” Money quote from the article:
“Most recently, a man was simply standing outside of a St. Louis McDonald’s where he was surrounded by a group of black man who punched the man in the face for no reason whatsoever. Seemingly unprovoked, the group intentionally targeted this man for nothing more than his skin color in a backwards attempt at justice for Mike Brown.”
Ah, yes, the classic “for no reason whatsoever” immediately followed by “for nothing more than his skin color in a backwards attempt at justice for Mike Brown” trick. That old reporting chestnut.
Anyway. The tale of an entire mob attacking this man was
followed up by showing these tweets, where the story originated:
This is all from the same article, mind you. There’s a paragraph describing a mob of black men attacking this white guy, and then they show the actual source describing a single black man punching the guy in the face once. Also? The Knockout Game doesn’t exist.
So really, “Black Man Punches White Man In Face, Other Black Men Try To Apprehend Black Man Who Punched White Man In Face,” because Ferguson’s hero-to-asshole ratio is actually through the fucking roof.
Anyway. It sucks that the guy got punched a couple weeks ago, but if you’re going to lie about it, try being just so much better at lying.
Cracked shouldn’t be the “journalists” catching this kind of thing. If you read something that sounds outrageous but tickles that part of your brain that wants it to be true, there’s a good chance it’s made up specifically to do that tickling. Take twenty minutes to research it before sharing or you sound like an idiot.
i’ve seen people make fun of cracked for it’s list format and some other stuff, but damn if they don’t thoroughly research the topics they make jokes about. funny AND informative.
I really need to talk about how much I love this show. I’ve only been a fan for about two weeks, but it easily rivals Sherlock for being my favorite show (sorry Sherlock). I went into it thinking it would be a typical zombie show and that it would just be a British version of the Walking Dead. I’m so glad I was wong.
First off, it has zombies, but it’s really not a ‘zombie show’ at all. It takes place four years after the zombie uprising, and scientists have developed a cure to return them to ‘normal’. As long as they take their medication once a day they won’t go back to being rabid. So the zombies are being rehabilitated back into society, but as you can imagine not everyone is happy with that. Practically everyone fears them, especially in the small town where the story takes place, and some just want to have them killed.
The story mainly deals with discrimination and prejudice, but there are a lot of other issues tackled such as depression, suicide, anxiety, drug use, and PTSD. All of the issues are handled wonderfully. They aren’t pounded into your head every ten seconds, but they’re certianly not glossed over.
Also some other reasons to watch In the Flesh:
- The main character, Kieren, is bi/pan, and his character doesn’t revolve around his sexuality. Same with Simon.
- No queerbaiting. Rejoice!
- Amazingly written female characters. This show smashes the bechdel test into pieces.
- Really great character devolopment
In short, watch In the Flesh. Here is a link to watch all the episodes.
The woman on the left is a mother from Miami who was so desperate to feed her hungry family that she was trying to steal a lot of food.
The woman on the right is Miami-Dade County Police Officer Vicki Thomas. Officer Thomas was about to arrest Jessica Robles but changed her mind at the last minute.
Instead of arresting her, she bought Robles $100 worth of groceries:
“I made the decision to buy her some groceries because arresting her wasn’t going to solve the problem with her children being hungry.”
And there’s no denying they were hungry. Robles’ 12 year old daughter started crying when she told local TV station WSVN about how dire their situation was:
“[It’s] not fun to see my brother in the dirt hungry, asking for food, and we have to tell him, ‘There is nothing here.’”
Officer Thomas says she has no question that what she did was right:
“To see them go through the bags when we brought them in, it was like Christmas. That $100 to me was worth it.”
But Officer Thomas did have one request:
“The only thing I asked of her is, when she gets on her feet, that she help someone else out. And she said she would.”
And guess what? The story gets even better.
After word got out about what happened people donated another $700 for Jessica Robles to spend at the grocery store.
And then best of all a local business owner invited her in for an interview and ended up hiring her on the spot as a customer service rep.
She started crying when he told her:
“There’s no words how grateful I am that you took your time and helped somebody out. Especially somebody like me.”
And to think it all started with one veteran police officer trusting her “instinct” instead of going “by the book”.
I N S T I N C T
I’ve come to the conclusion that Sam and Dean would take one look at Night Vale and burn it to the ground, civilians be damned.
i’ve come to the conclusion sam and dean would drive into night vale and spontaneously combust from being exposed to sexual and racial diversity and women who don’t die within a week
“Guardians of the Galaxy was such a fantastic movie!”
"There were a lot of issues with GotG that should be addressed and Marvel should work on improving with future movies."
For bisexual and queer people that are in heterosexual relationships, yes, they do have straight passing privilege. There is no denying that their experiences walking hand in hand down the street with their partner in a “straight” relationship which conforms to heteropatriarchal norms is undeniably different than when they walk down the street hand in hand with their partner in a queer relationship. They may be the same person, but they are walking through a world bound up in heteropatriarchal power. Heteropatriarchy as a system of domination bequeaths power on heterosexual individuals and with that power comes heterosexual privilege as well. As such there is passing privilege when queer people are themselves in heterosexual relationships, as our identities get interpreted differently in those instances. This is the “straight passing privilege” that I was referencing in the tag on that post about Anna Paquin (Sookie) who is bisexual but married to a man.
Straight passing privilege exists for a lot of gay people too though. Like, everyone talks about it in regards to bi/pan people, but lots of gay men and lesbians pass as straight. They don’t fit stereotypes of queer people and everyone just assumes they’re straight.
I don’t think failing to conform to stereotypes is a privilege. There’s no such thing as “looking gay” or “looking straight” unless you buy into the stereotype that gender and sexual orientation are inextricably linked. The other thing is in our society people are assumed to be heterosexual unless proven otherwise, Straight washing is not a privilege. People assuming you are straight and erasing your identity is not a privilege. I’m not even sure I agree with owning-my-truth on this one given the extremely high rates of sexual assault, abuse and rape bi women experience compared to both straight women and lesbian women at the hands of men, mostly their male partners. Not sure how that’s a privilege. Bi women don’t gain access to straight privilege just by being in relationships with men.
That’s why the term “straight passing privilege” brings ire to a lot of people. Because our society assumes everyone is straight until further notice and then assumes you’re not straight if you’re gender presentation deviates from the norm. This also results in assumptions about trans people’s identities too.
It also ignores the fact bi women still can be incredibly masculine and, as you mention, read as queer when in public without their male partner or when not romantically interacting with their partner. When I present as butch people tend to make assumption I’m queer. They would do this even if I had a boyfriend, granted I wasn’t holding hands with him or kissing him. If I live alone and go shopping and go to work and my day to day life without my boyfriend, people would still read me as queer.
Using the term “heterosexual relationship” to describe relationships bi people are in has also been criticized in the past, as contributing to the erasure of bi people, although I can see both sides of that debate.
I honestly would like to get rid of the term straight passing to describe people at least altogether, as it is charged in a really negative way and assumes straight people act a certain way and gay another (erasing bi people a lot of the time) and also reinforcing stereotypes. I think the term “straight passing relationship” makes more sense, and talking about some privileges you can derive from being in such a relationship makes more sense (or at the very least that such a couple has more access to privileges than a same-gender one). But in those discussions it should some with caveats about the fact bi people are vulnerable to abuse from straight partners and suffer from erasure (having higher incidents of mental illness, poverty and other problems compared to straight AND gay people).
As a bisexual woman I find it completely audacious for monosexual gays to suggest we have “straight passing privilege”, as if having your sexuality automatically assumed straight when you are not is some kind of privilege, instead of just the consequence of a hetero-normative society… And frankly, this sounds like some kind of privilege point system for queers. Let’s be frank here. Bi and Pan people are treated like jokes by the gay community as well as by straight people. We are often not made to feel welcome, and quite honestly, I’m often uncomfortable with sharing my sexual orientation with gay and lesbian folk for fear of disrespect. If I am dating a man and am assumed straight, that isn’t a privilege. Because you can’t label it a privilege to be in a relationship, nor is it a privilege to be treated like suddenly you’re completely heterosexual if you’re a bi woman and begin dating a man, and it’s assumed you were just faking your queerness until you found a man to settle down with. Bi women are treated by many lesbians as unbalanced see saws that will inevitably break your heart to be with a man. Bi men are not even considered to be telling the truth when they come out as bi, but secretly gay and afraid of saying so, as if coming out as gay is harder than coming out as bisexual!
I don’t find it a privilege to be assumed hetero by mistake. I don’t find it a privilege to be treated with snark by gays and straights alike who find my sexual orientation to be a joke, non-existent, or narrowed down to simply “confusion” or “experimentation” (and being confused or experimenting is NOT a bad thing, sexuality is fluid for many people and experimentation and confusion shouldn’t be considered negative by the queer community because sometimes sexual identity takes time figuring out for people). I don’t feel privileged when a romance I was having with a woman does not work out and she blames it on my sexual orientation instead of self reflecting on what it is that she may have done wrong to dissuade me, or come to the logical conclusion that sometimes people get to know you and find you’re incompatible. That’s not a bloody crime and it isn’t the fault of my being attracted to multiple genders. I don’t find it a privilege when lesbians won’t even consider dating me anymore after finding out I’m bi instead of gay. I don’t find it a privilege that my entire family, who are all completely accepting and welcoming to gay and lesbian folk, find my sexual orientation to be ridiculous, a phase, or some kind of new and modern “fad”, despite the fact that bisexuality has existed for as long as heterosexuality and homosexuality have. I don’t find bisexual erasure in media a privilege. I don’t find it a privilege that one of the most renowned singers and music performer of all time, Freddie Mercury, is considered a “gay” icon instead of a bisexual one, when he never once stated explicitly that he was strictly homosexual and dated and fell in love with both men and women throughout his entire life.
I do not consider having my sexual orientation constantly judged, by both gay and straight people, a privilege. I abhor the concept of “straight passing privilege” because not only is it one of the absolute most ridiculous things I’ve heard from gay and lesbian people (because it’s literally a “I’m more oppressed than you are” argument), but it continues to perpetuate biphobia and disdain towards people like me. We are constantly battling this silly idea that bisexuals have one foot in and one foot out. We are treated like scum. We receives the same amount of hatred and oppression and disgust from straight people, and then we turn around and receive MORE of it from the gay community. Fuck this so called “straight passing privilege”. If you honestly think that’s a legit thing, you’re fucking ridiculous and you can kiss my ass. Gay people come out of the closet, and that’s it, you’re gay, and in many communities there’s quite a lot of acceptance of that but much of that acceptance was fought for equally by bisexual activists yet when Bisexual people come out of the closet, for the rest of our lives we have to prove we fucking exist, that we’re not greedy and confused and at every turn there is a monosexual person ready to try and invalidate your experience, and whenever your relationship doesn’t work out it’s blamed on your sexual orientation. Just shut the fuck up already and stop acting like bi people are treated better than gays because it could not be FARTHER from the truth.
Tl;dr: Straight washing is not a privilege. People assuming you are straight and erasing your identity is not a privilege.
Calling it “straight passing privilege” may be stupid, but anyone in a heterosexual relationship benefits from social structures that reward heterosexuality while they are in that relationship. That doesn’t also mean that there are drawbacks that are specific to bisexuality, like the erasure of identity and bias from both straight- and gay-identified individuals. But these aren’t things that cancel each other out. They’re orthogonal to each other, and treating them as if they’re the same makes the larger social structures that reinforce heterosexuality as the norm harder to fight.
What the above thoughts are getting at is that these purported privileges don’t exist for a huge number of bisexual people, and continuing to act as if they exist is hugely painful and damaging to those bisexual people. If the goal is to fight the kyriarchy, fine. The best way to do that is not to reinforce the constant barrage of hatred and abuse levelled at bisexuals by picking on the small amount of privilege that a small amount of bisexual people maybe possibly get by sometimes being seen as straight (which also always comes at the cost of having one’s identity misread, often willfully so, which is painful).
In this bisexual person’s view, it smells like a thinly-veiled cover under which to condemn bisexual people yet again, in a new and different way. Seeing “straight passing” as a privilege reminds me deeply of Julia Serano’s screeds against the kyriarchy’s obsession with making transgender women pass as femme (although that kind of passing or not passing much more often has serious, even life-threatening consequences). But neither of these kinds of passing are a privilege.
Is it true that if I am a cislady and a ask for a hotel room for a night with a cisman I am more likely not to get funny looks than if I do that with another cislady? Yes it is. But that night in the hotel room isn’t the whole of my identity, and it isn’t the whole of my experience, and being misread as straight threatens my identity, and I don’t need to be reminded that I could have had a different experience. I know what it’s like to be queer because I am queer. I know how these structures operate.
Treating bisexuals as if they’re somehow obsequious collaborators taking advantage of the patriarchy’s willingness to throw them a cookie for pretending to be straight is disgusting and insulting.
Wintersoldierfell, perfect. You worded it much better than I. Thank you.